One 14-ounce can lite coconut milk
1/3 cup lime juice, plus lime wedges for serving
1/3 cup dry white wine
2 tablespoons brown sugar
1 1/2 tablespoons Thai red curry paste, or to taste
1 tablespoon garlic, mincled
1 tablespoon fish sauce
5 pounds littleneck, manila or other small clams
2 cups fresh cilantro, coarsely chopped